Can you a remember a time you had a disagreement with someone, you found a way to resolve it and ended up feeling closer to them and trusting them more because you came through the disagreement together? I’ll bet you can... because that is a normal result of resolving disagreements. It’s just that we can all also think of times when that didn’t happen… many, many times it didn’t happen, probably too many times it didn’t happen!
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